To achieve your goals it is very important that you feel your vision and goals are achievable.You have to ask yourself ‘ honestly, do I believe that I can achieve all this? Do I believe that I deserve all this success?
For, if there is an iota of a doubt in your mind that you can not or do not deserve to achieve success that you are seeking, then that doubt will hold you back.
Such self doubt can come from either:
- a low self esteem – where because of negative feedback in your earlier life, you are led to believe that you are not someone special and can not achieve much in life. No matter what is the source of that feeling, if deep down inside you have such feelings or thoughts, you will have to get rid of these, otherwise no amount of success books and courses can help you achieve what you want to achieve. Your low self image will become a self-fulfilling prophecy – you will walk away from every success and sabotage your own efforts and opportunities. Your own mind will create incidents and environment to make you fail in every endeavor you take.
Low self esteem can also come from a feeling of guilt from past events in your life. This feeling of guilt and your internal fear that you deserve punishment can become a hurdle in your way to success. It is generally the reason why some people who achieve stardom, lose it all eventually – as if they have gone into a self destruct mode. Deep down inside they are feeling – even when they are at the height of success – that they don’t deserve that success.
- thinking that seeking success and riches is morally wrong where you have been led to believe by your childhood that seeking riches is immoral – that those who are rich and famous must have reached that position by wrong means. Most people who don’t achieve success in life blame others as morally corrupt. With this kind negative approach to success and riches – how can you hope to achieve the same?
How can you get rid of these hurdles in your way and achieve internal clarity?
The solution to the first problem – low self esteem – is to build a realistic self image. You should consider the fact that the abilities and talents you have are God given. What your creator gave you is a set of gifts. You are not boasting or showing off when you use your talents. You are in fact thanking your God for giving you the ‘gift’. And your ‘thank you God’ note is in form of using that talent for your own benefit and for the benefit of others. This thought will give you a most balanced self image – you are neither under-stating nor over-stating yourself. You are serving the purpose of your life.
FOGIVENESS – the greatest of freedoms
When we forgive others, we do them less good than we do ourselves. Holding a grudge and desire for revenge, holds us back from positive achievement.
If we feel resentful about someone who we think has harmed us – that feeling of resentment and desire to get even, becomes the biggest obstacle in our way to achieve positive results, we are otherwise capable of achieving.
Therefore, when we forgive others, we benefit ourselves more than we benefit others. We should forgive others in our own self interest.
If someone has harmed us in any way, we can get rid of all resentfulness and the desires to take revenge, by forgiving them. This opens up the way to positive achievement.
Sometimes we need to forgive ourselves as well.
What is holding us back is mostly a feeling of guilt from the past, of our wrong doings. That makes us feel unworthy and is a hindrance in the way of positive achievement. We must dissolve this by thinking that “destroying our life as a punishment, is not the solution to pay for our sins”. The better way would be, to do so much good that it becomes our payback for whatever wrong we may have done in the past.
Another aspect of forgiveness is forgiving those that stop you from progressing in the way of manifesting your desires. Sometimes you will meet skeptics who will say this is all hogwash, how can you just think and intend something and it would happen? This is day dreaming. Remember, what they are saying is their reality – it is true in their case – it is true for them because they have chosen to think like that. Let them be. Don’t get upset. Do not start arguing. Go your way peacefully – secure in your knowledge that everyone’s reality is what one chooses it to be.
If someone thinks goals can only be achieved the hard way – that person will find success the hard way and thru struggle. If someone thinks that there is an easier way to succeed, that person will find success the easier way.
If you find someone who you feel is charging too much for his or her service, don’t get upset and don’t get resentful. Take whatever word of wisdom or benefit you can take from them and then peacefully leave and go your way. You are not dependent for your success on any guru. You can find your way by using your God given ability to create what you want through the power of intention.
In short, do not hold a grudge against anyone – you are the creator of your own reality. Choose to desire, intend and seek the kind of people you want in your life - and you will find them. The others, let them be what they are, forgive them and go your way. That is a better use of your time and you will achieve what you want more quickly.
The cure and healing for the problem of guilt from the past event(s) can come from total and unconditional forgiveness.
The process of forgiveness does not involve loss, but willing release. When you forgive you feel the real power. Power is not heavy, but strong. You feel less victimized. Victimization can create the feeling of armor or a need to armor, which is heavy. As all of the old weight, plus your anger, which is always heavy is laid upon your alter you can feel the lightening of your heart, which then begins to effect your physical body.
The process is slower than a weight loss program, because most people have to get the hang of forgiveness, but as you get it, the weight comes off in a gentle and effective way that will stay gone because you are not attempting to find something you have lost.
If your mind and psyche are not so cluttered with old emotions you can find more peace within yourself. It is important to replace the old weighty thoughts with new lighter ones. Many people over-eat for emotional reasons, using food to distract themselves. As you practice forgiveness the requirement for emotional eating begins to lessen.
You must find companions who are interested in something besides seeking pleasure primarily from food making food the center of their attention. If you are attempting to eat less, then thinking of food all of the time—counting calories, measuring portions, avoiding certain foods—can be self-defeating.
Often, the intake of painful, disturbing thoughts can add physical weight through the excess fluid of unshed tears or a feeling of having to defend ourselves by putting on extra weight.
Give forgiveness a month. If you still feel that you must count calories then add forgiveness to the program. Not only does the weight come off easier, but also the body responds by firming and toning in a way that other weight reduction programs do not offer except through strict and often strenuous exercise
Better spend your personal energy
It is also important to understand that when you focus on something, you give it a piece of your personal energy. If you allow yourself to be distracted you will disperse your energy and it will be too thinly spread on different and scattered subjects. As a result what you really want will not get your undivided attention and you will not be effective in manifesting it quickly.
This is true for negative feelings for others – you are wasting too much of your available mental and personal energy on something you don’t want. If you can get out of that mental trap – you will free up a lot of energy to spend on getting what you really want.
Complaining about anything, justifying about anything or blaming someone - all these behaviors hold you in the place of refusing to receive the things you've been asking for.
Feeling guilty, feeling angry, it doesn't matter what you call it : it is a refusal.
Although you are asking – and Universe is yielding (as it must yield) but why aren't you letting it in?
If you think you have forgiven, but you keep going over old material in your mind you have not let go. You did a mental ritual, but you have not made the demonstration of Faith to really let God take over.
Bottom line is: Forgive others, forgive yourself and move on to achieving positive results in your life
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Excerpts from a great writer on the subject . . .
Joe Vitale – (Spiritual Marketing, The Attractor Factor – 1999, 2005)
If there was a situation in your life where you were hurt, abused, or anything unfinished, you are probably still carrying around that unfinished business. You are still plugged into that old event. That means a part of your energy is still back there, reliving and probably recreating the old event.
When you try to manifest something today, you won’t have all of your energy available to make it happen.
When you get clear of the old events, hurts, memories and beliefs, you will have more energy to create what you want now. And the more energy you have now, the more you will get
If you feel that you have cleaned your energy circuits and are free from the past and yet you aren’t making money or miracles or anything else, then you haven’t cleaned your energy circuits or gotten free from the past
How do you know if you are clear right now? Think of something that you want to have, do, or be. Why don’t you have it yet? If your answer is something negative, you aren’t clear. If you say anything except an honest “I know it’s on the way to me,” you probably aren’t clear inside with what you want
Another question to ask yourself is, “What does it mean that you don’t yet have what you want?” Your answer to that question will reveal your beliefs.
For example, if you say, “I have to do such and such first,” then you have a belief that you have to do something before you can have what you want. If you say, “My soul doesn’t want me to have this,” then you are stating your own beliefs about what you think your soul wants for you. If you say, “I don’t know how to get what I want,” then you are revealing a belief that says you have to know how to get what you want before you can have it.
Forgiveness is the best way I know for getting clear by yourself. And the best way to become forgiving is to feel gratitude.
Know that if you focus on what you like about people, you will feel grateful, and then you will begin to forgive, and then you will get clear. And when you get clear, you can have, do, or be whatever you want
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